My ex girlfriend and I broke up in mid september. I have no doubt that she was in love with me, and i was in lover with her. However, she now says that she is not in love with me because she knows how she is and how she acts when she is in love. She says that I can’t force her to love me, and that I should move on because she is with another guy already. We were together for a year, and during that year we were very close, we would talk everyday, it was lovely. She was so good, the best girlfriend i have ever had, I recipricated by being thoughtful and loving to her. In august she started saying that it was too soon for her to get involved with me, because she had just broken up with her hex 3 months before meeting me. Also that she needed space and that she and I should just be friends adn that she was confused. I told her to stay with me until she found a new guy , in a sarcastic way. However, she did go out with another guy in september, and that’s when she developed a crush on this new guy. We managed to go out 2 more times in septmeber before we broke up, and the very last time we went out was probably one of our best dates ever, in my opinion. It was lovely, words could no describe the experience. HOwever, the following morning i was fed up, and told her that it was either me or the new guy. She replies " let me think about it",. i said, " then nothing "….she she goes " okay…take care then" . ever since then she’s been so mean to me, she wouldn’t even answer my calls nor my messages nor text. She ‘s been acting as if I never existed, and never loved me.
I am 28, and I do realize that i am acting like a little girl. I have been crying like little babies do. But i can’t help it. I realize how much I adored this girl. I would do anything to get her back with me. Everyday when i wake up, i have this empy feeling, I miss her, and I can’t resist the temptation to text her or call her, even though i know that she won’t even reply or answer.

No matter how busy I am, i still think about her night and day. I went on vacation with a friend last month in northern california, and all I could do was to wish that my ex girlfriend would have been able to experience what I was experiencing with me.
I was at the sequoias, and because I know how much she loves nature, I coulndn’t hold my tears back.

She does have a lot of issues/problems, but I don’t really care because she’s a great person, with a great heart. She has been married twice, grew up with an abusive dad, was in a long term relationship with a guy whom she was in love madly, but had to break it off because he didn’t apreciat her. She is the first one to admit that she is broken, damaged, etc…… but i am not in a position to judge people based on their past. So my love was unconditional for her.

She told me that she doesn’t want me to love her, and that I have to move on.
But, how could she say those words when I have no doubt that she did love me in a romantic way???

She is now going out with her mother’s brother in law. This brother in law always had a crush on her, but she never liked him, until she went out salsa dancing with him.

Evidently he is latin like she is, and he has muscles, and he knows how to dance. That’s why she likes him.

Me, not being latin, not being able to salsa dance, not having muscles, was enough for her to fall out of love?

Please help, for I am really sad.