My husband and I eloped when we got married. And I mean "really" eloped…not "have a destination wedding with 50 of our closest friends and family" eloped. He asked me to marry him on the 27th of May while we were camping in the redwoods of California. on the 2nd of June, we flew BACK out to Cali, rented a car and drove to the Nevada side of Lake Tahoe and on the 4th of June, got married on a secluded beach in the rain,..our only witnesses being the judges wife and the two geese that wandered up on the beach!
We knew even before we got "engaged" that we were going to get married that way. There was never an "engagement ring". We both work for an airline (he’s a captain and I work in Flight Operations planning and monitoring flights) we just couldnt justify the cost and frankly, I find chunky, fussy jewelry to be a pain in the hiney, especially when I am hacking away at a computer all day. I have an INCREDIBLE wedding band….TIFFANY & CO wedding band…an Elsa Peretti rose gold comfort fit band with a tiny diamond embedded in it. It makes me smile every time I look at it and everyone who knows me always comments that it is PERFECT for me.
So someone PLEASE tell me why people are so hung up on the fact that i dont have some giant rock on my hand? Im getting really sick of women making comments about how my husband must not really be committed because he didn’t buy me a 000000000000000000 engagement ring. (Um…he bought me a CAR when we were still dating….better than a ring…sorry!) or that he is cheap (Um…hello…my wedding ring is from TIFFANY’S!!!!) Ive had people ask me if my husband plans on buying me a "real set" or if we are "saving up for an engagement ring"
None of my grandparents had diamond rings and they all had happy, 50+ year marriages. They didn’t have elaborate weddings or K receptions…..they were the people who taught me how to love and to be a good spouse. If they could do that without an expensive peice of jewelry, I knew I didn’t need one to prove that my husband is my world!
Please tell me that I am not the only person who prefers a wedding band to diamonds! Dont get me wrong…diamonds are very pretty to look at and I think they look lovely on OTHER people, but frankly, when I tried them on, I thought they looked RIDICULOUS on me….they certainly looked better in the case than on my hand! If a peice of jewelry looks pretty on you and you want it and your husband or wife can afford it, you SHOULD have it….I just never wanted it!
Any other "wedding band only" wives out there? How do you deal with superficial people? What were your reasons for chosing to wear only a wedding band?