Sometimes i am wondering what am i doing here in the northern part of the USA, yes for school but its so cold in here and when i see my Brazilian sisters and Peruvian sisters bodyboarding and having a blast, i ask myself, is this worth it?

But if i go back then the jobs are hard to come by….so i think how can i have my life back? like the life i had in Latin America?

I said to myself, finish graduate school and go to a southern states like California or visit Costa Rica.

What would you do? would you totally move there? or stay and go only on vacation?

the opportunities for a better job are here but life is not as good, also, there are good jobs in Latin America but hard to come by…..maybe something in the middle like the Bahamas? Or Puerto Rico would work for me?

Does it help if i say that i am in a small and boring city and is very cold but i am going to school too. But the city here is dead passed 10 PM and in Latin America the cities are so vivid all night long like Rio de Janeiro.

WHAT A WOMAN TO DO? WHATS BEST FOR ME?

@catherine, don’t take it personally but i am as trapped here as your ancestor were when they came.

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I got married when I was 24 to my husband who was the same age in 2004. He decided unilaterally that he was going to grad school part time and didn’t work at all for the next 4 years…thus far he has not worked at all. He has also been extremely disrespectful in the past. Right after we got married, he tried to search for his ex (the one he lost his virginity with), then when he was in grad school, he had a picture of some girls he went to school with (half naked) hidden on his computer (which I accidently found). After the first incident where he was searching for his ex, I told him he had to pay for all the Bills if he wanted me to stay around…I thought this would motivate him to get a job….nope….I paid for everything else (vacations, groceries, gas, any entertainment…etc… and he was responsible for all bills only). In 2006, he crashed my car (which I had before marriage and was fully paid off for) on purpose with both of us in it…the car was totalled. I moved out of the city to northern california to get away from him. I loved him very much still. After I moved away, I paid for all my living expenses, plus his expenses when he visisted, plus flight tickets EVERY weeked for the next 15 months. He graduated in May of 2008 from part time degrees with 2 masters degrees and no job….he really wanted to move in with me, and I told him the only way he could do that is if he paid for EVERYTHING….and he did for about 9 months….and now I pay for the rent and he pays for everything else…..I am confused….I know we love eachother, but the finances are such a damn issue…..how and where do we begin with trust on money???? I want to solve this issue, but don’t know how tooo!! I am desperate for sound advice from both men and women who have been married and understand what I am going through…I don’t want a divorce, but I don’t want to be stupid or nieve…what would you do given the situation?
He drained his savings, then lived off money his parents gave him for a while, then when they told him to move back to LA because they didn’t want him to spend their money paying for his living expenses with me, he started selling stock from a gift from his parents to pay for bills….basically he has gone broke to be with me, but keeps acting disrespectful…

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I recently was given a drug test by my employer. I tested positive for Cocaine. I was given the drug test on the day I returned from a 9 day long vacation. I traveled all over northern California and was offered some Cocaine. I work at a Walmart Distribution Center in Alabama. The company has a random drug testing policy. I do not understand how a company could test for drugs after a person is returning from vacation. I was on my own free time. I was fired from my job for testing positive. I do not see why I should be fired for drug use on vacation. I rarely do drugs. At the most I might smoke pot or the occasional line of coke 3 or 4 times a year.

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without me of course. For two weeks. From May 18-June 1. I understand that her co-worker is going (she’s actually from there) to spend her child’s birthday with her (turning 9 I believe). My birthday also falls within this time frame. I am utterly furious that my spouse seems so adamant about going without any regards to how I feel. I wasn’t invited and this isn’t a trip with her family. I’m actually thinking of telling her that if she goes I won’t be here if & when she comes back. She spends TOO much time with this friend and has recently taken a 4-day trip to northern California with her as well. She claims I don’t like going places but I don’t have a job that allows spontaneous trips and I can’t go during school months (I’m trying get my BA).

I’m tired of her ALWAYS placing her friends and family first & expecting me to be ok with it.

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Such as the Hilton Garden Inn, i know they go through a slow time, but the job is different. I am awaiting a phone call from them and I need a steady paycheck. Please reply soon. thanks.
My bros work at the Hilton and in the winter, sometimes there won’t be work for a week. And I am concerned that the Hampton does the same.

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We are thinking about moving to Arcata/Eureka area but don’t know much about the job market around there. Are there jobs around there for college grads?

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Looking for Hilton Garden Inn Bakersfield California, to post for a job

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